Working here at Signature HealthCare has given me a great opportunity to listen to patients express their hearts and concerns about their elderly parents.
If you are not sure what decisions to make or what steps to take; begin by accepting the aging process and try to see the disabilities of aging through your parents eyes. As we age; we will experience weaknesses in our physical well-being such as loss of hearing, poor vision, memory loss, arthritis, and other physical limitations.
Help your parents accept their physical failings and limitations with creativity and humor and even assist in preparing them for death.
What’s good for an elderly parent one month may not be what’s best the next month. There is no perfect answer even after the hardest ones are answered. Certain questions and issues occur such as; Is dad/mom taking their medicine? Should I place my parent in a nursing home? Do my parents feel loved? What if I make the wrong decision?
It is important to listen to your parents even when they are old and also respect their decisions. If your parents are not sure what to do; ask God to lead you in decision making that is honest and merciful. Reflect God’s character in all that you do for them and others to make them proud and to bring them joy. Continually express your love for them.
Of course, we hope that our parents make financial arrangements for their own support; and we are also aware of the government and community services that provide help, but you should encourage your parents to be as independent as they can for as long as possible. Yet in the end, caring for parents is a family responsibility. As with any decision-making process; let the peace of God rule in your heart.
Words to Remember: “Pay attention to your father who begot you and don’t neglect your mother when she grows old..” (Proverbs 23:22)